Working through the Holiday Blues
The holiday season is often hailed as the "most wonderful time of the year." With its festive decorations and the promise of togetherness, it's no wonder many people eagerly anticipate the arrival of the holidays. However, for some, this time of year can bring about a sense of sadness, grief and loss, and unease known as the "holiday blues."
The holiday blues, also known as "holiday depression," are characterized by feelings of sadness, loneliness, and increased stress during the holiday season. While it's normal to experience a range of emotions throughout the year, these feelings can intensify during the holidays for various reasons.
Grief and Loss: For those who have lost loved ones, the holiday season can trigger a deep sense of grief and longing. Memories of happier times and the absence of someone dear can be overwhelming. Additionally, grief and loss can be experienced by those who are estranged from family members. The loss of spending time with loved ones and/or the loss of what should/could be can be difficult to manage when all media indicates endless happiness for people around the holidays.
Social Isolation: Some people may feel isolated during the holidays, especially if they lack close friends or family with whom to celebrate. Loneliness can be especially challenging during a season that emphasizes togetherness.
Financial Pressure: The pressure to give and receive gifts, travel, and host gatherings can lead to financial strain, adding stress to an already demanding time of year.
Unmet Expectations: High expectations, often perpetuated by media and social norms, can lead to disappointment if your reality doesn't match the picture-perfect holiday ideal.
Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD): Some individuals experience symptoms of depression during the fall and winter months due to decreased sunlight and shorter days.
Coping with the Holiday Blues
Acknowledge Your Feelings: It's essential to recognize and validate your emotions. Understand that it's okay to feel sad during the holidays, and you're not alone in this experience.
Seek Support: Reach out to friends, family, or a mental health professional. Sharing your feelings with someone you trust can provide comfort and connection.
Set Realistic Expectations: Adjust your expectations for the holiday season. Remember that it's okay to scale back on activities and prioritize self-care.
Create New Traditions: If old traditions trigger sadness, consider establishing new ones that align better with your current situation and feelings. Be mindful that you can create your own family by surrounding yourself with people who support, encourage and love you. You are not obligated to spend time with those you are related to by blood.
Practice Gratitude: Focus on the positive aspects of your life and the things you are thankful for. Gratitude can help shift your perspective and elevate your mood.
Self-Care: Make self-care a priority. Engage in activities that help you relax and de-stress, such as meditation, exercise, taking a warm bath, etc.
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Volunteering: Giving back to the community can be a rewarding way to combat the holiday blues. Helping others in need can provide a sense of purpose and fulfillment.
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Plan Ahead: Take the time to plan your holiday activities and set boundaries. This will help you manage stress and reduce last-minute pressure.
Avoid Overindulgence: While enjoying holiday treats and festivities is a part of the season, excessive consumption of alcohol, sugar, and rich foods can negatively impact your mood. Moderation is key.
If you think you may be suffering from a Substance Use Disorder you can start seeking help for free through the following programs.
12 Step Programs: A 12-step program is a peer-based mutual help program for alcoholism, drug abuse and other addictive and dysfunctional behaviors. The steps are guiding principles that outline how to overcome addiction, avoid triggers and live a healthy, productive life.
To find a meeting near you: https://www.chicagoaa.org/meetings/
Refuge Recovery: A practice, a process, a set of tools, a treatment, and a path to healing addiction and the suffering caused by addiction.
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SMART Recovery: SMART Recovery is a nationwide, nonprofit organization which offers free support groups to individuals who desire to gain independence from any type of addictive behavior. SMART Recovery also offers a free Internet Message Board discussion group, and sells publications related to recovery from addictive behavior.
To Find a meeting near you: https://meetings.smartrecovery.org/meetings/
The holiday blues are a common experience for many people, and it's essential to remember that they will eventually pass. By acknowledging your feelings, seeking support, and practicing self-care, you can navigate the holiday season with greater ease and even find moments of joy amidst the sadness. Remember that you are not alone in your experience, and there is help available if you need it. Embrace the holiday season at your own pace and in a way that feels right for you.